Ups and Downs


  1. Michelle says

    Chilling is so hard to do! I struggle with this every day. I am happy you got your time off. Maybe you can share some more tips when we meet to discuss your book this week with the ladies!

  2. scotch meg says

    Oh, I am laughing! With you – because even with just two kids at home during the day (ages 12 and 23), I feel like I can’t get into a routine.

    BTW, libraries are great places to work, if you have one around and it’s open on the weekend. Mine has wifi… but if you’re just writing, you don’t really need that internet distraction, anyway.

  3. Had to laugh at the “piss poor”. I use that way too much and other things that I tend to have to bring up in the confessional, lol. Oh and I learned mine from my grandmother, a 4ft 10in woman who was the mother to 10 children.
    I hope you all enjoy the rest of your summer.

  4. I’m really glad I read this today. It makes me feel less crazy to know that other moms of little kids are going through the same emotions. I am really trying to balance the unending little people calling my name and getting stuff done. I appreciated reading your realization that it’s not a problem with your situation – that it’s a problem with trying to juggle too many things. Hit home with me!

    Blessings to you!

  5. My mother had seven, the first in ’47 and the last in ’60. This reminds me of her once saying in frustration ” Someone is always ‘Ma’-ing at me.”

  6. Ha! Great column. Husband and father of two boys here. I remember when no. 2 was an infant we had this little baby carrier thingy (looked just like a car seat) called the “kanga-rocka-roo”. Occasionally the wife would hand the baby off to me and I’d plug him into the seat and set him down on the floor next to me as I was watching TV, studying, or whatever, and keep that bad boy (the rocka-roo not the baby) rocking with my big toe as I continued on doing my thing. The wife would keep checking back in trying to figure out how I was able to keep the baby so quite for so long. Come to think of it we had a rocking bassinet at the foot of our bed that I could keep rocking for hours on end with that handy big toe too! I should write a book but I’d probably just get sued for child endangerment.

  7. I was just lamenting that while I can’t believe how quickly the summer has flown by, I can’t wait for there to be order in my life again! I can do the chill part. My problem is not maintaining the amount of order that I require for proper sanity. For a grown up my need for order is ridiculously low but with my 3 hooligans home all day we quickly get beneath that and at this point in the summer, I’m dreaming of cleaning my house and time to exercise. I guess that it’s good to appreciate all of the different seasons of life, right??

  8. Adrian G says

    I’m reminded of a C.S.Lewis quote I came across lately (maybe it’s well known): β€œThe great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one’s ‘own,’ or ‘real’ life. The truth is of course that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one’s real life — the life God is sending one day by day.” This is the aim, but sometimes it’s just really, really hard. And other things need doing.

  9. I, too envy my hubby’s ability to tune it all out. I am a list person but they are also the bane of my existence because I find I can relax and chill out a lot easier when the list is non-existent! Enjoy the rest of your summer, it’s coming to a close far too quickly (and sometimes not quickly enough!) πŸ˜‰

  10. Aren’t men amazing creatures, with their ability to absolutely ignore {in a good way!} minor distractions and get their job done? I envy that, too. Thank you for this post, Rachel…it’s like you know what I’ve been feeling these last few days. You’ve provided the perfect amount of commiseration and encouragement! πŸ™‚

  11. I currently have an incredible miracle of a 31 month old (9months post liver transplant) that cannot entertain himself for 5 seconds. I also have a 9 and 6 year old. I have been trying so hard to reduce my demands on myself. It is always fabulous until I can’t find the floor in any room in my house. Finding it super hard to exercise and eat right. Glad I am not the only one. My current favorite saying is “bats$&)”. It works to explain my mental status most of the time.

  12. A 27 year old dude with a sports column! You crack me up!! I love how you are a gifted writer and also let your humor show through often. πŸ™‚

    Carrie – mom to 4 from Korea