Answering a letter from the Inbox, reader Julie writes:
We recently found out we were expecting baby#5….however our youngest is just 7 months. We also have a 9, 7, and 4 year old. Our pattern for now is boy-girl-boy-girl…we’ll see if this one keeps up the pattern! Anyway, my question to you, oh wise one, is what was your tightest age gap and how do you suggest dealing with the sanity of such a tight gap…if you can even recall?
Thank you again for all you do to help us nutty Catholic moms laugh, love and learn!
Thanks for writing Julie! And congratulations on the new baby! Life is such a gift.
Our experience with age gaps here has been this: the first four boys were all 21 months apart. One boy every 21 months times four. Then we waited five years and had another boy. Then Isabel came along 2.9 years later.
So our shortest gap was 21 months and our longest was that five-and-a-half years which to be honest, was when I was fairly convinced that I would never recover from having so many little boys so close together and that was it for us. And then some time went by and I am so grateful for the wisdom of prayerfully considering another baby, using our wit and intellect. In other words, I’m so glad we didn’t make any sweeping actions to prevent ever having another baby after boy number four, because at that point in time I would have seriously considered it had I thought it an option. God changed my heart — and time helped a lot too.
So while we have not dealt with babies as close in age as you will, we have definitely had lots of littles at once. It’s a challenge. That’s the best I can say — just embrace that this season will be a unique challenge but remind yourself that you are up to the challenge! Honestly, so much of that season is a haze. Lots of hard work, embracing the season I was in and knowing that’s what it was — a season (though at the time I wasn’t too convinced things wouldn’t always be so “intense.”).
Anyone out there want to add any words of encouragement? If you’ve had little ones reeeeaaallly close together, what did you do to make life a little more peaceful?